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I can't believe we did it. We totally emptied the mobile home and two storage sheds, and left it ready for the relator to walk through. All that needs to be done is the carpets cleaned, and the windows washed.

Most of the time, we were just so busy, and it was so chaotic, that we could forget *why* we were doing this. We were just doing it. But on Sunday, when the reality of leaving, and getting the the very end of stuff, some of the stuff we'd postponed making decisions on, it got really emotional. At some point, someone put my mom's battered old three-legged stool--that's been around forever--on the "donate" pile. I just lost it, and had to go out back and sit and cry. I pulled it out of the pile and made sure that someone took it. John rescued my mother's big breadboard.

We just ran out of room, so I didn't get to dig as many plants as I wanted to, but I got one of mom's big peonies, and a bucket full of lilies. I'm seriously thinking we might take a weekend and go back over and dig more plants. I put in a huge lily bed for my mom about 5 years ago, they're ready to be divided (well, this fall, but if I have to move 'em, I can divide 'em, too).

It was just so sad watching Daddy walk through the house and say "doesn't feel much like home now, does it?". He met with the Assisted Living folks yesterday and will be able to move into a freshly painted and carpeted apartment by this weekend. My sister said that he was just absolutely charming and wonderful during his assessment interview. He's keeping it together really well. The assessing nurse commented that a lot of times, with couples that have been married forever, when one person starts having memory issues, they sometimes just get a little lazy, stop paying attention and let their spouse do the answering. Now that Mom isn't here to answer, he's picking up the slack. I'm sure that Mom, in her afterlife, is saying "I told you so!". She really did believe that a lot of the time, he was just being lazy about thinking.

Somehow, it got decided that John and I would coordinate the yard sale. We were talking with his folks, and they're planning on one for the summer already, so we're going to do them together. They live in a great garage sale neighborhood, and have a huge yard. So last night, we drove to Sumner and Puyallup and unloaded all the boxes(probably 30 yard sale and 10 for me, personally) into his folks garage. We'll start bringing home the personal boxes each time we're there, and sort all the yard sale stuff when it gets a little warmer. We washed it all before packing it, so we just have to unpack and price.

I'm so glad we get to just stay home tonight (although we should go to the gym, but that almost qualifies as staying home). And tomorrow, a massage. I have a good friend who's in massage school and needs willing bodies to practice on. If you're in the area, and needing a good massage, let me know, and I'll hook you up. :)


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Apr. 8th, 2003 09:39 am (UTC)
That had to be *very* hard. I'm glad your Dad is doing well. Welcome back!
Apr. 8th, 2003 09:57 am (UTC)
It's nice to be back to routine stuff, without looking ahead to the non-routine stuff you need to be doing....

Master Gardener Plant Sale this weekend! Woo! I think John's suggesting that I not take my checkbook. :)

We're planning a Portland trip in May. They Might Be Giants are playing at the Aladdin, May 3 & 4. Any interest in joining us? And if not for the concert, let's have dinner or something.

Apr. 8th, 2003 10:00 am (UTC)
You're Welcome
definitely dinner at the minimum. i'm not familiar with that band...

i'm trying to keep some restraints on my own plant extravagances! my fancy peony just arrived...
Apr. 8th, 2003 10:06 am (UTC)
Re: You're Welcome
TMBG are a total geek band. I love 'em. (and even liked them before I started dating John--they're one of his favorite bands). Two guys, lots of smart/funny/silly lyrics.

I brought home some plants from Mom's and have literally tons (okay, maybe not literally) of seeds to plant. I found 3 vials of columbine seed in her stuff, so I'm going to give it another try.

After all, it's warming up and I have that cool little greenhouse! Time to get started with some of those tender seeds.

Apr. 8th, 2003 11:58 am (UTC)
Re: You're Welcome
yes. i've planted a bunch of seeds along the rose bed in the back. it's very warm and sheltered. we've had some cold nights but everything is coming along with no special protection.

if there is one thing i'd love from my mother's yard, it would be some of the purple violets. my grandmother loved violets and gave some to my mother when she moved into the house nearly 40 years ago. they're all over the yard!
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