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Spent the weekend worrying about my folks, mostly.....



.....and being coldly diplomatic to my sister Audrey, who called to tell me the ten thousand reasons why she can't come up and help out.

But, they're getting by. I was having a hard time leaving on Sunday. I just really wish there were two of me, so one would stay there and help take care of them, while the other comes back and does the things I need to do over here. Mom looks so frail. Dad looks so lonely.

Mom's in a rehab facility right now, and while she's not exactly happy about it, she does realize that she's going to get better faster if she stays there, doesn't have to concentrate on anything other than getting well. She fell several times over the weekend (mostly because she was trying to not use her walker--stubborn woman), but other than some bruises, didn't hurt herself. Mostly, she's just really really tired, and I don't think anything other than a lot of rest is going to change that.

My niece, has offered that they can move in with them, about 35 miles south of here, near where my brother, sister and
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Spent the weekend worrying about my folks, mostly.....

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.....and being coldly diplomatic to my sister Audrey, who called to tell me the ten thousand reasons why she can't come up and help out.

But, they're getting by. I was having a hard time leaving on Sunday. I just really wish there were two of me, so one would stay there and help take care of them, while the other comes back and does the things I need to do over here. Mom looks so frail. Dad looks so lonely.

Mom's in a rehab facility right now, and while she's not exactly happy about it, she does realize that she's going to get better faster if she stays there, doesn't have to concentrate on anything other than getting well. She fell several times over the weekend (mostly because she was trying to not use her walker--stubborn woman), but other than some bruises, didn't hurt herself. Mostly, she's just really really tired, and I don't think anything other than a lot of rest is going to change that.

My niece, has offered that they can move in with them, about 35 miles south of here, near where my brother, sister and <lj-user=johnstown>’s folks live I talked with Mom about that, and it went over much better than I thought it would. We're just taking it a day at a time, but I think knowing that there's an alternative other than a nursing facility really helps her mood. Kel is a stay-at-home mom, homeschooling her kids, and her husband is a SW Consultant, with his own business, so they're at home most of the time, which solves the problem of simply having someone around. It's not so much needing medical care constantly, but just having some support around. So we'll see. I told Mom we don't have to make final decisions right now. They could even come over here for the winter, and we could reassess things in the spring. (which would give us lots more time to deal with their house and stuff, too).

So all in all, it's okay. (if I keep saying that, I might get to the point where I’m actually believing it) Dad has someone stopping in with him every day to be sure that he's taking his medication, I got him hooked up with the RSVP visitor's program, so someone will just come out to visit with him a couple times a week. He actually seemed a little more independent, what with mom being gone for a week. He was listening to his books on tape, and running the tape recorder without problems. When mom's home, he always wants her to turn it on and off because "he can't see what he's doing".

It’s hard, parenting my parents, negotiating with my siblings (one of which is totally involved, another who is involved as long as it doesn’t interfere with the rest of his life, and a third who refuses to take any responsibility at all.), trying to manage it all remotely, since they live 5 hours from Seattle, and trying to keep the rest of my life together.

And I’d be a lot happier if her doctor’s office would call back and let me know what they think is going on….

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On the other hand, we did collect the newest fishtank--a 29 gallon freshwater tank that is currently home to a whole bunch of fancy tail guppies and a plecostamus named Frank. <lj user=johnstown> is having a heyday with toys for the fish. He finally got his mermaid yesterday. Honest, we just walked into petco to get a cheap filter, maybe a better (quieter) air pump, and many dollars later....we left and went to dinner at Chilis.

It's fun. I can't wait until we put the 80 gallon salt water tank together.