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Thoughts and prayers, please.

My dad has taken a dramatic downward turn.

Tests show that he has a perferation in his stomach, and stuff (for lack of a better term) is leaking into his abdominal and chest cavity. He's really swollen up with air and liquid.

Unfortunately, given his age (89) and his overall fraility, surgery isn't a good option. The doctors give very little chance of him surviving the surgery, and even if he did, coupled with his dementia, recovery would be very difficult.

The other option, of course, is to do nothing, and make him as comfortable as we can. This actually is the recommendation of the doctors, considering everything else. They'll give him medication to help combat the infection, but the odds very very good that it will end up killing him.

We don't know how long we'll have him with us, but are setting up a family vigil, because he's expressed his fears of dying alone. Could be a day, could be a couple weeks.

It's really hard to know that we're making the right choice, but I think we are. And I think, as a family, we're all accepting that this is the right course of action--to let him go with as much dignity and love as we can put together for him.

He's at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle right now, airlifted from a hospital in Tacoma this evening. If he stablizes, we'll probably go the hospice route. I'm sad that he doesn't even remember his first and only flight in a helicopter.

Anyway, I'm off to bed for a few hours, to work for a few hours, and then back to the hospital.

Comments

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tarsyddad
Nov. 14th, 2003 06:02 am (UTC)
thinking of you....
Oh Sweetie, sending *hugs* and support your way.....please let me know if there's anything I can do.
kasha
Nov. 14th, 2003 06:38 am (UTC)
My thoughts are with you.
hiddeneye
Nov. 14th, 2003 08:18 am (UTC)
Meg, I'm so sorry. Here's my love and prayers for you and your father.
lirrin
Nov. 14th, 2003 08:26 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear that, kiddo.
*hugs*
We won't expect you at the wedding, given the turn of events. If by some chance you make it, great, but if not, we'll be thinking of you.
unmisha
Nov. 14th, 2003 08:35 am (UTC)
*hugs* My prayers are with you.
roobug
Nov. 14th, 2003 08:51 am (UTC)
hugs and prayers
thoughts and best wishes! take care.
lorij
Nov. 14th, 2003 08:54 am (UTC)
Aw, Meg. I'm sorry to hear that. ::hugs:: and I'm here if you need me.
ein_traum
Nov. 14th, 2003 09:20 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry Meg. Let us know if there's anything we can do.
I'm also here if you ever want to talk.
Take care,
Christine
snorklet
Nov. 14th, 2003 09:57 am (UTC)
*hugs to family* here if you need anything at all, sweetie.
loba
Nov. 14th, 2003 10:32 am (UTC)
*hugs and prayers and good Charlotte-kitty thoughts*
jinasphinx
Nov. 14th, 2003 12:22 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
I'm so sorry. You'll be in our thoughts, and please let me know if you need anything.
hesperide
Nov. 14th, 2003 07:51 pm (UTC)
I sympathize with your sadness. Please to imagine a giant bouquet of hugs to share with the rest of your family, and know that there are candles burning, with wishes for the most positive and peaceful outcome of this situation.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((MEG)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
hopeyhopey
Nov. 15th, 2003 11:23 am (UTC)
hugs and sympathy for you from both me & Lee. If you need kitty-sitting, just let me know. I'll be happy to drop by and feed them. If you need anything else, just holler.
waterfaery
Nov. 17th, 2003 10:35 am (UTC)
Wow. Hang in there, and know you and your family are well loved.

Holding you and yours in the light...
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