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Worries.

I'm worried about my Dad. He's on his own for the first time since he was 21--over 67 years ago. I can't even imagine how it must feel to lose your partner of nearly 68 years.

We looked at assisted living apartments for him yesterday. Fortunately, they weren't as bleak or institutional as I feared, but I worry about him become a recluse, one of those old men who just sit in their room and don't interact with the outside world.

It'd be easy for him to retreat--not having good vision, not having a memory he can trust for current events, not living with a lot of people he knows.

I'm just worried about him. It makes me wish he could come live with us, but I know that he needs more assistance than we can provide, without one of us being home all day. And being in a private home, he'd have even less chance for interaction with other people.

I hope he does okay. So far, he's been stronger than any of us imagined he would be. I hope he keeps it up.

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sisterfish125
Mar. 31st, 2003 01:33 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
It will take some adjustment, but I'm sure he will do fine.
You might be surprised even.

I'm here if you need a ear to bend, or someone to lean on.
*hugs*
hiddeneye
Mar. 31st, 2003 05:34 pm (UTC)
This has to be difficult and I know you'll find him a good place to live. Is he normally outgoing?

*hugs*
sisterfish
Apr. 1st, 2003 09:43 am (UTC)
Outgoing?
Up until the last few years, I'd answer that with a resounding yes. My dad's one of those folks who never met a stranger.

But since his vision has deteriorated, he's become a little more closed in. He's getting over being afraid of eating in public (he doesn't want to look un-able), and absolutely hates that he doesn't always recognize people who know him.

I'm hoping that living in a community of older folks will give him lots of opportunities to swap and share stories...

hiddeneye
Apr. 1st, 2003 10:36 am (UTC)
Re: Outgoing?
i bet being in an elder community would help a lot, since there are going to be people with similar issues. and if it's close to you, he be able to spend time with you on a regular basis. it sounds to me like it will all work out.
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