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The Good Daughter....

Sometimes it's hard to be a good daughter.
Sometimes, it's just having different political and social views than my mother.
Sometimes, it's the nature of the world I live in, where it's perfectly fine to live with my boyfriend, while in her world, it's still almost scandalous (regardless of the fact she likes him)
Sometimes, it's the things unsaid.

She went to a new cardiologist today, and seems to have liked him. She said that he said to let her know whether she'd be a permanent patient, or whether she'd be going back to Walla Walla after the winter. At this point, there's a voice in my head saying "You really should tell her that she's probably never going to live independently again. "

But at the same time, I don't want to take away what is about the only motivation she has......if she can will herself somewhat normally well, she might be able to live independently again, with some assistance.

She got mad as hell last week, when her GP told her that she probably wouldn't ever feel "normal" again, and is currently in an "I'll show him" mode---which is a good thing for being sure she does her exercises, takes her medication properly, and does all the things she's supposed to do.

I guess I just want to be surprised by a miraculous recovery.
I guess that's part of being a good daughter.

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hiddeneye
Dec. 3rd, 2002 05:53 pm (UTC)
it is really hard being a good daughter sometimes. i struggle with my mother, who is very intense and strong-willed... and getting forgetful. which is making her very anxious and more intense...

i have to remind myself sometimes that being a good daughter means I will differ with her and piss her off and tell her hard things. All of which upset her. It's tough, but so many people in the family pander to her fears... *sigh*

so, i've invited my parents to come to portland for new years week... because it will make them happy. it will drive me crazy and pretty happy. it's a good thing to do.
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